I love being a stay at home mom to my one year old daughter, Laila, but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. It took me awhile to find balance, but once I did, I was much better able to enjoy my days. Here are some of the things that I do to stay sane as a stay at home mom; I know that they might not fit with everyone’s parenting style, but they’re what’s been working for me for the past (almost) fifteen months.
Get dressed for the day
I don’t wear anything fancier than a tee and jeans, but I feel so much better about my days as soon as I get out of my pajamas.
Clean up the chaos
Whenever Laila goes down for her nap, or to bed for the night, I clean up her toys and books. It doesn’t take much more than five minutes, I get to enjoy a clean house while she sleeps, and when she wakes up, she has fun pulling them all back out again.
Get out of the house
This is so much easier to do when the weather’s nice; we’re lucky to live within walking distance of everywhere that we want to go. But, it’s also been well worth the effort this winter. Just be sure to be realistic about where you want to go, what you want to get done, and/or how long you’ll be out for.
Playdates, playgroups, and baby/toddler classes
The older Laila gets, the more important these are for both of us. Laila has the opportunity to play with kids her own age, and I’m able to make new friends, have adult conversation, and celebrate and commiserate the ups and downs of parenting and toddlerhood.
Add taking care of your child(ren) to your daily to-do list
I’d love to get the 100 things on my never-ending to-do list done, but the reality is that my “job” as a stay at home mom is to take care of Laila. And so, on any given day, if all that I get done are 2 bottles, 3 semi-homemade meals, 1-2 naps, 6 diapers, and countless hours of reading and playing, then I’d call that a success.
Some days are “lazy days”
Some days, Laila and I spend all day in our pajamas, I don’t clean up the mess, we don’t leave the house, and I ask my husband to pick-up dinner on his way home; and, that’s okay, too 🙂