The holiday season is very joyous for many people and for many reasons. But, for anyone who has experienced a loss or is going through a difficult time, this time of year is bittersweet. As much as they may want to enjoy it, a little piece of them will not. They focus on something that is hurting them or they might feel guilty for enjoying this time of year.
This post was inspired by this article. My cousin, who is currently going through a tough time this season, shared it. This article has to do with how to help those who are grieving during the holidays. It got me thinking about what I do to help myself this time of year.
Last year, I was feeling a bit down right at the beginning of December. I get excited for all the holiday events, but I was still not feeling it 100%. So while I was shopping I discovered a couple Christmas sweaters and had a great idea.
I would buy more Christmas sweaters to get me through the month of December. I came up with a tradition just for ME! It makes me feel a little lighter and brighter. They bring out a silliness that some might scoff at or be afraid to try, but it makes me happy.
In the article referenced above, one of the first things they talk about is encouraging your friend or family member to be positive or happy about something, as being not helpful. From my personal experience, I don’t think it’s unhelpful to encourage positive thinking or doing something fun for yourself.
NOTHING, will ever fill the missing piece of you, but it is important to find something you do enjoy. It won’t take away from the grief, but just helps us walk that fine line with it.
If you know of someone who is having a hard time this year, please take a look at the article above and ask yourself what might make their spirit lighter this holiday season. If you don’t feel comfortable asking, drop off a little something, whatever it maybe.