I love everything about the month of December. Twinkling lights, frost on the window panes, Starbucks’ Caramel Brulee Lattes, my family’s traditions, and the list could go on for days – 31 to be exact.
This Christmas season has started off a bit differently for my family as I am performing in a production of “A Christmas Carol.” Such a gift my family has given me by supporting this mama as she runs off to rehearsals and now performances during a time of year when our calendar is already full. This gift is exactly what I needed during a time in my life when I have been feeling more “bah humbug” than I care to admit. Embracing the character of Mrs. Cratchit has been humbling and helped me to reflect on some of the non-essential catalysts that stress me out and cause me to be far from cheery.
This Christmas I think that the greatest gift I could give my family is to be the gladdest thing. They do not need me to cram every last Christmas type activity into our already hectic life. Nor do they need a mountain of presents under the tree. The best gift I can give them is a loving mommy and wife that reflects the light. So here I go – how can I be the gladdest thing?
Be Appreciative in Each Small Moment
Recently my youngest child grew out of all his footsie pajamas. He is four years old and it really wasn’t on my radar to buy him new ones. As I watched him desperately try to squeeze his body into his old 3T ones, I knew that I needed to surprise him with a bigger pair. The joy upon receiving this new pair of pajamas! I want to radiate that joy! I know that I do not always share my appreciation of these smaller moments. Early morning snuggles, cashew butter on a rice cake, or the first snowfall. If only it was as easy to spread this gratitude of all things little as I do my anxiety about all the little problems that creep into the day.
Be Appreciative of the Big Things
We all can get into the bad habit of trying to keep up with the Jones. Comparing what we have to others seems to be a common theme that is only magnified and heightened by social media. For me this needs to stop. We are healthy. We are warm and well fed. We are able to enjoy activities with friends and families. We are able to complete our daily tasks and come home to each other at the end of the day. These are all very BIG things that should not be taken for granted. I should not waste our time wishing my waistline would be smaller or my bank account larger. We are fortunate in life and that is enough.
Be the Light
It is so easy to join in on the negativity that taints our day. A good vent session always makes us feel better. But how much better would I feel if I was able to be the one that surrounds my family, friends, and colleagues with positivity? We are entering a dark time in our country, and we all could use some light. What if instead of joining in on the complaining, I gave more encouragement or even just a smile. Most importantly, what a strong message my children might receive from seeing me providing light to those around us.
So my quest for the new year is to be gracious and positive – to have my family witness less melt downs and more acts of gratitude. I will be the gladdest thing under the sun!
What is a gift you would like to give your family?
