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Keeping That Spark Alive

Before all this baby stuff, it was just me and my hubby.  Before we knew it our days as a couple traveling the world and living one nonstop date night were over.  Sometimes I think about it and remember fondly those moments of sleeping in and going out for breakfast followed by an impromptu adventure for the day.  I remember planning a vacation without having to consider all the amenities at the hotel and checking just one piece of luggage for the both us.  I remember driving down the Pacific Coast Highway and arriving at hotels we hadn’t pre-booked, all the while falling in love.  All those times brought us to our life with our family today.  Now, I am busy making new memories and luxuriating in the warmth of the new family we created.

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Our West Coast Road Trip Fun!

As parents all over the world know, our children are our everything.  What I realized though is that now that our children are little and need a lot of our attention, it is easy to forget about the spark that started it all.  It can be so easy to get into a parenting routine and forget to spend quality time with your partner in crime, the one you started this family journey with.  My husband and I love to be with our kids and literally do everything with them.  Now that we have 2 at home, it has become much more challenging to take time for ourselves.  Many times it’s a divide and conquer situation and things just have to get done.  As we all know, it is really important to spend some quality time together occasionally to really take that time and reconnect as people, not just as Mommy and Daddy.  Here are some tips:

  •  Share a romantic meal together.  This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to find a babysitter and go to a fancy restaurant.  Sometimes it just means putting the kids to bed first and then having a nice, quiet dinner together.
  • Take time to listen to each other.  Sometimes when we are busy with our hectic schedules, it’s easy to be dismissive of what each other is saying.  Make a conscious effort to perk up those ears and listen.  It goes a long way.
  • Compliment your partner.  Who ever said compliments work mostly for the women?  No way!  We’ve all figured out by now that if we throw our hubbys’ compliments too, it can equally boost their self-esteem.
  • Texting.  Send each other a sweet text once in a while.  It can feel really nice to get a text that doesn’t have to be a reminder or an errand that needs to be taken care of.
  • Surprise each other with some help around the house.  Surprise the one that usually cooks by picking something up on the way home.  Or, clean/fix something that the other person usually takes care of.  Helping out around the house can really be a huge stress reliever.
  • Hold hands and hug!  Cheesy? Maybe, but sharing affection is a very important part of connecting!

These are just a few ways to keep our relationships fresh.  In the crazy chaos, it’s nice to take some time to enjoy each other.

Do you have any other fun tips to share with us?

 

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5 Responses to Keeping That Spark Alive

  1. Shannon
    Shannon September 30, 2013 at 9:00 PM #

    Love this. We sometimes have date dinners after the kids go to bed in our dining room or on our deck. We get take-out from a favorite restaurant, and we don’t need a babysitter!

    • Liz October 5, 2013 at 6:36 PM #

      Shannon! Love it..nothing like date nights in the comfort of your own home :o)

  2. Alicia October 3, 2013 at 6:46 PM #

    We sometimes do a date day. While our daughter is at school, we’ll take the day off of work and do something fun somewhere in CT. We never go too far, but we have some really fun dates that start at 9am! We usually grab breakfast at a diner, sitting as long as we like and drinking coffee after coffee, just chatting. A couple of times we’ve gone to Mohegan and then shopped at the Outlets. In June, we can hit the beach. New Haven is beautiful in the fall. There’s tons to do during the day, and we enjoy every minute of it.

    • Liz October 5, 2013 at 6:39 PM #

      Thanks for sharing Alicia! Actually, I’m right with you on this one. We love to do day time dates too. It gives playing hooky something to really look forward to. Maybe I’ll see you at Mohegan next time ;o)

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  1. Better Together | Fairfield County Moms Blog - October 11, 2013

    […] I like to use this opportunity to reflect on the past year and our accomplishments as a couple. Having children definitely puts a strain on any marriage. You can get so caught up in caring for your children’s needs that you can easily become distracted from what your partner needs. It is so important to keep the spark alive. […]

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