Before all this baby stuff, it was just me and my hubby. Before we knew it our days as a couple traveling the world and living one nonstop date night were over. Sometimes I think about it and remember fondly those moments of sleeping in and going out for breakfast followed by an impromptu adventure for the day. I remember planning a vacation without having to consider all the amenities at the hotel and checking just one piece of luggage for the both us. I remember driving down the Pacific Coast Highway and arriving at hotels we hadn’t pre-booked, all the while falling in love. All those times brought us to our life with our family today. Now, I am busy making new memories and luxuriating in the warmth of the new family we created.
As parents all over the world know, our children are our everything. What I realized though is that now that our children are little and need a lot of our attention, it is easy to forget about the spark that started it all. It can be so easy to get into a parenting routine and forget to spend quality time with your partner in crime, the one you started this family journey with. My husband and I love to be with our kids and literally do everything with them. Now that we have 2 at home, it has become much more challenging to take time for ourselves. Many times it’s a divide and conquer situation and things just have to get done. As we all know, it is really important to spend some quality time together occasionally to really take that time and reconnect as people, not just as Mommy and Daddy. Here are some tips:
- Share a romantic meal together. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to find a babysitter and go to a fancy restaurant. Sometimes it just means putting the kids to bed first and then having a nice, quiet dinner together.
- Take time to listen to each other. Sometimes when we are busy with our hectic schedules, it’s easy to be dismissive of what each other is saying. Make a conscious effort to perk up those ears and listen. It goes a long way.
- Compliment your partner. Who ever said compliments work mostly for the women? No way! We’ve all figured out by now that if we throw our hubbys’ compliments too, it can equally boost their self-esteem.
- Texting. Send each other a sweet text once in a while. It can feel really nice to get a text that doesn’t have to be a reminder or an errand that needs to be taken care of.
- Surprise each other with some help around the house. Surprise the one that usually cooks by picking something up on the way home. Or, clean/fix something that the other person usually takes care of. Helping out around the house can really be a huge stress reliever.
- Hold hands and hug! Cheesy? Maybe, but sharing affection is a very important part of connecting!
These are just a few ways to keep our relationships fresh. In the crazy chaos, it’s nice to take some time to enjoy each other.
Do you have any other fun tips to share with us?