I feel guilty typing this…

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Why is mom guilt even a thing? Whether you are feeling the pressure from family, other moms, or friends; IT’S REAL!

I put the guilt on myself ALL. THE. TIME. And I’m really working hard on trying to stop. I chant, “If it’s working for my family, it’s ok!“ I feel like today I am in a much better place with not letting the guilt get to me than I was two years ago.

We have all been there, it all starts with a post in a local mom’s group or a commercial on TV… you think, OMG, I do that? Is it not ok? Should I not be doing that? What is the vast majority doing? Do I need to stop NOW? Helpppppp!

You can really fill yourself with anxiety and thoughts of what ifs after hearing some of these stories. “But Sarah is taking her kid to the dentist at 6 months! And Kelly is taking hers at 2 years per her pediatrician’s recommendation.   Maybe I’ll meet in the middle so I don’t look like I’m going too early or too late!” And, “Amber is giving her 6 month old table food, what the heck is Baby Led Weaning anyways?! My 7 month old barely eats purees! Is he going to be ok?! Is it normal?!” Should I take the bottle away at 1 year? My kid LOVES his bottle. Do I lie? Do I not show up at a play date? Do I go cold turkey? WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

I had so much more guilt with my first born than my second. Maybe with my third or forth child I will be guilt free! (I hope my husband isn’t reading this!)

I am starting my oldest in school one day a week so I can put more focus on my home based makeup business and you can not imagine the guilt I felt/feel/am feeling as I type this!  I know she needs the break, the interaction with other kids, and it will prepare her for full time preschool in the fall.  And I know it will make me a better mom having time to do all the ‘mom stuff’ and make me a better leader for my growing business team!  I will get to plan and organize my house and business better while she plays and learns. Ok, deep breath, I got this. Bye guilt.

My kids are vaccinated, one drinks cows milk, the other picky boy drinks almond, some of the stuff in my house is organic, most not, I have no limit on TV, some times snacks make up a meal, sometimes I cook 100% homemade, mac and cheese is a staple in my pantry, nuggets are a savor. My daughter walked at 11 months, my son 14, my daughter hates her big girl bed, my son NEEDS his crib. I tried CIO, I tried Ferber, I tried co-sleeping, I’ve even tried begging, treats are amazing bribes. My daughter was out of her crib at 19 months, I hope to get my son out by 9 years. My diaper of choice is what’s on sale. My first didn’t have sugar until 1 year, my second had a Popsicle at 6 months.IMG_8852

I do make sure my kids are safe and happy and you know what, I’m doing a pretty good job! Gosh that felt good to get out!

Let’s say good-bye to the mom guilt! Who’s with me?

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Melissa
I am a stay at home mom to my daughter Penny and son Grady who will be 2 in November. My husband and I were both born and raised in Norwalk, had the most magical wedding at the Maritime Aquarium, and currently reside in, wait for it, Norwalk!! When the kids are napping my “me time” is focused on my direct sales business, Younique. I love sharing make up with women, giving them confidence and making them feel beautiful! Being able to stay connected to adults outside of the normal day to day errands of running to Stew’s or finding a new playground to keep my children entertained is an added bonus too!

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